A Personal Message to Bereaved Parents

As a Life and Emotional Wellbeing Coach there is something I would like to share with you, I am also a bereaved Mother.  When my son Christopher died on 8th October 2006  I couldn't imagine how I would ever feel normal again, much less happy again.  Through the last  seven and a half years, I realised that when you lose a child, you inevitably lose a big part of yourself.  The loss of a child can be an extremely isolating experience and for parents who have suffered the greatest loss, I want you to know that you are not alone.  I know that your healing journey, as was mine, is a long and arduous one.  I now realise that the grieving process is also an important part of the healing process.  As I started to put the pieces of my life back together, it became a process of integrating the love I carry for my son in my heart with the physical loss I have endured in order to create a new life purpose.  I discovered a bereaved heart does continue to beat and even feel great love and joy again.  I have experienced it in my own life and I have others who have too.  As a Life Coach I can help guide and support bereaved parents to find a new purpose in life again after such a huge loss.  If you need an understanding ear I can offer you a safe place to reflect on what this loss means to you and what might help to ease your way.

  

Recovery Coaching

Autobiography in 5 Short Chapters
 a poem by Portia Nelson, published in her book

 Chapter I

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost ... I am helpless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter II

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter III

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in ... it's a habit ... but,
my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

Chapter IV

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

Chapter V

I walk down another street.

Emotional wellbeing

 What words would you use to describe emotional well being?

 

Seven things you need to know about positive emotional wellness.

Seven things you need to know about positive emotional wellness. 

Positive emotional wellbeing describes how we think, feel and relate to ourselves and others and how we interpret the world around us.

Having good emotional wellbeing affects our capacity to manage, communicate, and form and sustain relationships

Emotional wellbeing is enhanced by stepping out of your comfort zone and making positive changes in your life. 

Emotional wellness is about positive risk taking and really valuing what you are able to accomplish.  You are well on the road to achieving your goals.

Think about emotional wellness as a continuum and depending on life events you will move back and forth along that line.  Overcoming obstacles is important to moving forward in your life.

Emotional health is as important as physical health.  It’s really important to take care of both. They are inter-connected.

Positive Emotional Well-being describes how we manage, communicate, and form and sustain relationships. It also affects our ability to cope with change and major transitional life events such as a new relationship, Marriage, New Job, the birth of a new baby, job loss or divorce.

     

  

 

     

Special Coaching offers for January 2013

Coming soon.  News of special Coaching offers for January 2013.

A round tuit

Following on my last post on a 'things to do list'.  I first saw a plate on my  Uncle Brian's wall when I visited him as a teenager.  How many times have I heard people say this.  A perfect tool for all you procrastinators out there.

The benefits of making a 'Things to do' list.

Last Monday I had a real attack of the January blues.  I started to feel overwhelmed by all the things that I have to do.  Planning my wedding, starting my new business and work.  It felt like I had frozen myself into doing nothing.  Where do I start?  I phoned my coaching mentor and heard myself starting to winge.  She listened patiently for a while as she always does and then said have you got a 'To do list?'  Eh well no actually!!! It's funny that when things feel a bit chaotic in your life you can forget  the basics.  To be honest I'm not a natural list maker but this has worked for me in the past and I knew it would be a simple yet effective solution to my current procrastion.  The internet is a wonderful resource and I knew there would be a useful template on there somewhere.  I found a great one on http://www.mindtools/.  Its helps you to prioritise things on your to do list and is so simple to use.  How to get things done.  Organise your life with a 'things to do list'.  I know that keeping a 'things to do list' will help you to organise your life better and I know that you will use it in the best way to suit you.